Why do we view our losses as moments of defeat? Is it because we hold so tightly to things in this life; that when we lose them; then they become moments marked as failure to us? In Philippians 3:7-9, we read… “But what things were gain to me, those I counted loss for Christ. (8) Yea doubtless, and I count all things but loss for the excellency of the knowledge of Christ Jesus my Lord: for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and do count them but dung, that I may win Christ, (9) And be found in him, not having mine own righteousness, which is of the law, but that which is through the faith of Christ, the righteousness which is of God by faith:”
Throughout my life, I experienced many moments of loss. I remember a time as a young girl, when I would practically live on my bike. I don’t know what there was about that purple bike, with the white sparkly seat but I guess it just made me feel free and alive. As my knees began to progressively get worse; a day came, when my doctor said…no more biking Diane. From there, the losses seemed to pile up before me, as I was no longer able to ice skate or play tennis either and from there; these losses led me to another big loss in my life, as I found out that I would never be able to have children. I’ll tell you…each loss in my life began to slowly take me down, as I continued to ask God “Why?”
Isn’t it amazing how we don’t always see why these moments of loss happen? We can become restricted, due to health issues or we may lose a job that we always dreamed of having or maybe we may even lose someone close to us unexpectedly but one thing I have come to see, throughout my own moments of loss; is that these moments should never be seen as failure but rather they should be viewed as moments, when God is taking one thing out of our lives; to replace it with something that will draw us closer to the plan and purpose He has for us. In my own life, I could not understand why God would not allow me to have children but now, after many years, I can look back and see what He was up to. I came to see that the things that had left my life; only became an exchange, for what God longed to give me, in my life right now.
We may not always understand why these moments of loss take place but if we can focus on where each moment of loss is taking us, rather than viewing them as moments of defeat; then our hearts would be able to experience a peace and hope…even in the midst of what seems to be a defeated situation.